Stay at home mom is a full time job!
Hello Friends,

How was Easter and how has the month of April been treating you? I really can't believe we're almost at the end of the fourth month of the year! Time is really flying...Easter was amazing and April has been great and busy for me. I've been doing a lot of spring cleaning both inside and outside of the house. The outside of the house is just about ready for me to plant some flowers which I can't keep alive long enough to save my life, but still, insist on having one each year. I just love flowers so much and I can't imagine not having any, even if I kill them all before summer is over. My husband begs me every year not to get any flowers if I can't take care of them, and of course, I always promise him I'll take care of them.  I do keep my promise for a month or so then it all goes downhill from there haha, oh well...what can I say?

Some of you may or may not know that I'm a stay-at-home mom. I have been for many years and I'll probably continue being SAHM even when all four children are in school full time. On today's blog post, I'm getting a little personal. I've decided to live in my truth and be proud of the woman I have become and what I have decided to do with my life. So I'll start by sharing why I gave up the chance of having a "career" to be a stay-at-home mom.

I don't live a privileged life.

Yes, I'm a stay-at-home mom and I'm owning it proudly. I was uncomfortable about owning it for years due to the judgemental comments I often got from fellow women. Comments like "oh you're rich" or "you, do this and that because you're SAHM". Really? What does that have to do with anything? I mean me, being SAHM has nothing to do with being bored, having extra time to waste or being wealthy. In actuality, our decision had nothing to do with our economic status but largely based on our upbringing.

Contrary to popular belief, being a stay-at-home mom is anything but luxurious! Yes, it's far from that...I don't watch TV all day, I don't go shopping all day, I don't spend all day at the spa and the nail salon, and I don't hang out with fellow moms all day. It's actually quite alienating and the loneliest job on earth unless you're lucky enough to have some stay-at-home mom friends. It's mentally draining and very tough, so it's really unfair when people make unfounded assumptions. It takes lots of sacrifices and delayed gratifications from my family, for me to be a stay-at-home mom. It's something my husband and I, wanted right from the beginning of our marriage so we don't mind putting off some fun adventures for later---so we can afford for me to stay home and raise our children.

I'm not going to be uncomfortable or made to feel bad about being a SAHM because we all have the right to make choices and our choice was for me to stay home with our children.  If your choice is to be a working mom, that's great for you, there's really not much difference between you and simply boils down to our choices and being more accepting and respectful of each other and each other's choices even if we don't understand it. Neither one is better than the other in my opinion, at the end of the day, we're all trying our best to raise amazing human beings so do you and what works for your family and I'll do the same.

Why I'm a stay-at-home mom.

Growing up both my husband and myself, lived with extended family members for many years. We probably saw our parents only a few times and had limited contact and communication with them.  Through our experiences, we knew we didn't want that for our children so we decided that it'll be best to have one parent be accessible to our children at all times. I have been asked by my mother countless times to send my children to her, so I can go back to work and my answer is always a resounding “NO”!

I don't want to miss out on anything, I want to be there for every stage in their lives (from their first words, graduation, marriage and having their first child, ALL of it).  I want to bond with my children and reminisce with them one day about their life experiences. It's my hope that they will comfortably discuss issues with me (even if its just, mom how do I get the baby to fall asleep?).  I want my children and I to be able to have a long and meaningful conversation, hear each other out and build strong bonds that will last a lifetime.

I'm so thankful I get to stay home and raise my children. Has it been easy? NO! But whenever I'm having one of those days...I tell my self, they're only little for a short time (they will be grown and gone before I know it), so I bow my head, say prayer and weather the storm! It's very important for ME to change the narrative for my children, so if that means I start my "career" later in be it.

I'm not writing this to bash anyone, I realize not everyone can be or want to be a SAHM. I know of great working parents who do a lot for their children. I'm not saying working parents don't have great relationships with their children. I'm simply saying being separated from my family at a very young age didn't help build the kind of lasting relationships that I want with my children. I have accepted what didn't work for me as a child, and I'm doing what I can for my children even if others think I'm overcompensating.

I've felt my fair share of guilt over the years for being a SAHM but not anymore.  I'm unapologetically owning being a SAHM because it's the best decision for our family. And that's all that matters---how my children see and relate to me, what the outside world thinks about it, is irrelevant.

Well, that's all for me beautiful people, have you ever sacrificed for something very important to you? Was it all worth it at the end? Share your thoughts with me in the comment section. As always, MEDAASE (thank you) for stopping by and, Live Your Best Life Happily even if you're the only one who understands why and S.M.I.L.E!





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  1. Honestly, I thoroughly enjoyed reading your latest blog post. It is so relatable in so many ways. A lot of parents, especially mothers go through the same struggles when it comes to making such a life changing decisions. At the end of the day, we choose whatever works for our family. Personally, I couldn't be a SAHM, I like the idea of being able to have the time away from my precious angels because it can get very overwhelming to be around them 24/7. Kudos to all SAHM(S)!!

    I also want to acknowledge all the single mothers out there. I understand the sacrifices you all have to make as mothers and obviously, the option to be a SAHM is not a choice that is realistic. In all of this, we all make the decision base on what is right for our family. We need to be more supportive of each other rather than being judgmental towards one another. Whichever category you fall under, embrace it and know that you are doing what is best for your family. One love ❤����!

    1. Absolutely! You said it, the key word is to be "supportive" of each other no matter what. We're all in this to win, thank you for taking the time to read and joining in on the conversation.

  2. You have a beautiful and are doing a good job. Every decision we make as mothers (sham, postponing school or any personal goal etc) I believe is from a place of understanding and purpose for the greater good of our family life. Sometimes it tough to make the choices but with support and encouragement from each other, we can make it and raise better future adults. Great post! I enjoyed reading it.

    1. Thank you so much! I'm all for women supporting women and respecting everyone's decision/choices. It's a tough world we live in today but we're all doing the best.