YES, I'M A STAY-AT-HOME MOM AND I'M OWNING IT PROUDLY.

Stay at home mom is a full time job!
Hello Friends,

How was Easter and how has the month of April been treating you? I really can't believe we're almost at the end of the fourth month of the year! Time is really flying...Easter was amazing and April has been great and busy for me. I've been doing a lot of spring cleaning both inside and outside of the house. The outside of the house is just about ready for me to plant some flowers which I can't keep alive long enough to save my life, but still, insist on having one each year. I just love flowers so much and I can't imagine not having any, even if I kill them all before summer is over. My husband begs me every year not to get any flowers if I can't take care of them, and of course, I always promise him I'll take care of them.  I do keep my promise for a month or so then it all goes downhill from there haha, oh well...what can I say?

Some of you may or may not know that I'm a stay-at-home mom. I have been for many years and I'll probably continue being SAHM even when all four children are in school full time. On today's blog post, I'm getting a little personal. I've decided to live in my truth and be proud of the woman I have become and what I have decided to do with my life. So I'll start by sharing why I gave up the chance of having a "career" to be a stay-at-home mom.


I don't live a privileged life.

Yes, I'm a stay-at-home mom and I'm owning it proudly. I was uncomfortable about owning it for years due to the judgemental comments I often got from fellow women. Comments like "oh you're rich" or "you, do this and that because you're SAHM". Really? What does that have to do with anything? I mean me, being SAHM has nothing to do with being bored, having extra time to waste or being wealthy. In actuality, our decision had nothing to do with our economic status but largely based on our upbringing.

Contrary to popular belief, being a stay-at-home mom is anything but luxurious! Yes, it's far from that...I don't watch TV all day, I don't go shopping all day, I don't spend all day at the spa and the nail salon, and I don't hang out with fellow moms all day. It's actually quite alienating and the loneliest job on earth unless you're lucky enough to have some stay-at-home mom friends. It's mentally draining and very tough, so it's really unfair when people make unfounded assumptions. It takes lots of sacrifices and delayed gratifications from my family, for me to be a stay-at-home mom. It's something my husband and I, wanted right from the beginning of our marriage so we don't mind putting off some fun adventures for later---so we can afford for me to stay home and raise our children.


I'm not going to be uncomfortable or made to feel bad about being a SAHM because we all have the right to make choices and our choice was for me to stay home with our children.  If your choice is to be a working mom, that's great for you, there's really not much difference between you and me...it simply boils down to our choices and being more accepting and respectful of each other and each other's choices even if we don't understand it. Neither one is better than the other in my opinion, at the end of the day, we're all trying our best to raise amazing human beings so do you and what works for your family and I'll do the same.


Why I'm a stay-at-home mom.

Growing up both my husband and myself, lived with extended family members for many years. We probably saw our parents only a few times and had limited contact and communication with them.  Through our experiences, we knew we didn't want that for our children so we decided that it'll be best to have one parent be accessible to our children at all times. I have been asked by my mother countless times to send my children to her, so I can go back to work and my answer is always a resounding “NO”!


I don't want to miss out on anything, I want to be there for every stage in their lives (from their first words, graduation, marriage and having their first child, ALL of it).  I want to bond with my children and reminisce with them one day about their life experiences. It's my hope that they will comfortably discuss issues with me (even if its just, mom how do I get the baby to fall asleep?).  I want my children and I to be able to have a long and meaningful conversation, hear each other out and build strong bonds that will last a lifetime.


I'm so thankful I get to stay home and raise my children. Has it been easy? NO! But whenever I'm having one of those days...I tell my self, they're only little for a short time (they will be grown and gone before I know it), so I bow my head, say prayer and weather the storm! It's very important for ME to change the narrative for my children, so if that means I start my "career" later in life...so be it.


I'm not writing this to bash anyone, I realize not everyone can be or want to be a SAHM. I know of great working parents who do a lot for their children. I'm not saying working parents don't have great relationships with their children. I'm simply saying being separated from my family at a very young age didn't help build the kind of lasting relationships that I want with my children. I have accepted what didn't work for me as a child, and I'm doing what I can for my children even if others think I'm overcompensating.



I've felt my fair share of guilt over the years for being a SAHM but not anymore.  I'm unapologetically owning being a SAHM because it's the best decision for our family. And that's all that matters---how my children see and relate to me, what the outside world thinks about it, is irrelevant.


Well, that's all for me beautiful people, have you ever sacrificed for something very important to you? Was it all worth it at the end? Share your thoughts with me in the comment section. As always, MEDAASE (thank you) for stopping by and, Live Your Best Life Happily even if you're the only one who understands why and S.M.I.L.E!

See

Miracles
In
Life
Everyday!

XX

EMELIA

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EASTER OUTFIT IDEA!

Easter Fashion.


Happy Easter! (Well, not quite yet, but you get the drift ;)

Now that Spring is here, the weather is warming up beautifully, plants, trees, bushes, and flowers are blooming, birds are chirping (and making a mess of my garbage when I put them out for pick up ;). I love spring, and guess what else happens during spring...Easter (Woot, woot). This year Easter is on April 21, that's less than three weeks away!

We're so excited here at my house and anxiously waiting! The children are looking foreward to the upcoming Easter egg hunt and all the sugary treats they get to load up on and I, on the other hand, is just eagar to celebrate the single most important time in history...the resurrection of our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ.

For Christians like myself, Easter is a very important festival and a holiday celebrating the resurrection of our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ from the dead after his crucifixion. I look forward to Easter with so much joy and happiness in my heart every year and this year is no different.

Irrespective of your religion or religious beliefs, Easter is a very big deal and a fun time for all. I remember growing up there were two occasions in a year when children and even grown-ups got to wear their pretty special occasion outfits; it was usually Christmas and Easter. It was a joyous time and we waited anxiously for these holidays all year long.

The good news is, it hasn't changed much for me. I still love these holidays and now that I have a family of my own, building new memories and making new family traditions is a must for me. I still like everything about Easter, and the discounted Easter candies, Easter bunnies, and Easter baskets I score right after Easter is, of course, a pleasant bonus! I'm seriously like a big kid in a candy store after Valentine's day, Easter, Halloween, and Christmas because that's when I get the best deals!

Likewise, Easter is one of the holidays when most families and friends gather for a feast, for Easter activities enjoying each other's company and reminiscing about life in general. It's such a great time of the year, but am I the only one who doesn't love the reminiscing part as much? If you're from where I'm from you know what I'm talking about ;). Family gathering is when we hear all about our most embarrassing moments for the thousandth time! Hahaha come on, I don't want to hear how you use to bathe and feed me when I was a baby. It's kinda getting old!

It happens every single time...there's this lady who wouldn't stop telling me about a time in history when baby ol me soiled her outfit. Mind you, it has been decades and I have no recollection of the incident or the lady for that matter, but she makes it a point to remind me every time she sees me. Hey lady, (in my head, of course, lol) you said you carried me on your back so obviously, I was a baby so why bother reminding me every time you see me? Hahaha gotta love aunties and uncles!

Anyway, that was just, by the way...spending times with loved one is tremendously important because they are more or less our social circle and brings out the best in us (most of the time) and gives us a sense of belonging. That's what life is all about, so enjoy it, have fun and be jolly.

Today I'm sharing an elegant, conservative, stylish and affordable outfit idea to help planning Easter outfits a little stress-free. If you're still wondering what to wear to church, here is how to dress and look your best for Easter Sunday. Easter screams cheerful colours, bright colours mixed with a whole lot of pastel colours. That's when we see all shades of blues, pinks, greens, purples all around us. If you've been following me for a while, you know I love all things colour so when Easter comes around I'm one happy soul.

So think colours or even florals (since it's spring) when planning outfits for yourself or the family. Make it fun, be playful and do something out of the ordinary for you. If you usually stay away from colours try choosing a bright neon colour, fun bold patterns or floral prints and see how you like it, you never know.

It's important to keep the weather in mind during the planning stage, because although its officially, spring, we're still in the transitional spring phase and it could be chilly at times. Some families like to coordinate outfits so they can take family Easter pictures looking their best. Others like to dress casual and will not go all out, that's totally ok. I realize not everyone likes to look fancy, so if you feel like wearing fun colour jeans, white pants, or leggings with a cute top and flats, go for it! The most important thing about Easter is enjoying the festivities with family and friends, dressing up is a bonus.

My outfit for Easter is this beautiful flamingo print a line skirt ( I love flamingos, what can I say). I really like the colours in the skirt and I love how it fits my body type. It pairs beautifully with this rich dark blue cold shoulder long sleeves bodysuit. My light pink open toe heels and metallic pink clutch complement the pink in the skirt quite well. My jewelry is to a minimum with a dainty pearl stud earring and beaded bracelet to finish off this elegant, stylish and gorgeous outfit for Easter Sunday. I've linked similar items to achieve this look below.

That's all folks, I hope this inspires you to pull off a fabulous look for this Easter's festivities! Are you more of a fancy or casual outfit person when it comes to Easter fashion? Share it in the comment section or better yet post a picture of you looking your best for Easter, so we can all get some inspirations for our next special occasion outfit.

Happy Easter! MEDAASE (thank you), Until Next Time, Live Your Best Life Happily and S.M.I.L.E!

See
Miracles
In
Life
Everyday!


XX

EMELIA

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